I would hate to lose Mango and Whompas they seem like great guys so it is good that they are where they wanted to be. However would it really be the end of the world for them if they were in the same league as their friends but not in the same federation? As I keep on saying most other leagues don't even have this structure, in fact I don't know of any that do. So they would be quitting because they are missing out on something that they couldn't get anywhere else if they did quit. It doesn't make sense to me.
You are like a legend in the game up there with C-Cat, mllama and Dire as someone I have looked up to for seasons and aspired to emulate so naturally I want you to be happy as well. However, some people often get very upset about small things and don't see the big picture. On the other hand it is good that all decisions are thoroughly debated.
Ever read the book "Churchill and Hitler"? It isn't actually about war but management styles. Hitler surrounded himself with yes men. Invade Poland? Yes. Holocaust? Great idea. Second front with USSR? Brilliant! We all know how that went. On the other hand Churchill was surrounded by his fiercest critics and had to fight Parliament so any plan he had was thoroughly debated. It is slower, it is smoother but it gets the best results.
However, there is at least one person - not you - that seems to criticise every single thing we ever do and dislike everything. We aren't going to boot him out but if he is so unhappy with every single thing that ever happens I don't know why he doesn't just leave.
The plus factors of this league are
+ being on a team
+ competing against other Aussie teams
+ being mentored by some of the best minds in Aussie BuzzerBeater (in fact with Dire, mllama, C-Cat, Iwen, Naker, Koop, Monkey and You I would say we have most of the best minds)
+ a write up of every game
+ ladders
+ MVPs
+ prizes
+ federations
+ a very passionate community
+ very active forums
+ you can invite your friends to join
The minus
- your friend may be playing against you and not with you - as they would in every other private league anywhere
Honestly if that minus outweighs all the positives I am very surprised.